How many times a day have you looked at your new baby, looked around your home, and crucified yourself because you are not a perfect mom? How many times a day do you beat yourself up because this new parenthood thing is SO different from how you imagined it would be? We see you. And we’ve got something we need to say to you.Read More
At Doulas of Raleigh, we support ALL of our clients’ feeding choices - breast, bottle, formula, a little bit of everything. Today we’re tackling questions about bottle-feeding. Introducing a bottle might sound simple, but there’s probably more to it than you know. Take a look.Read More
What could you do with a full night of restful, deep sleep? Would you be more patient with your older kids and your partner? Would you have the energy to do more of what you wanted to do? Would you be able to ____ (fill in the blank)? It’s time to fill in those blanks and actually get more sleep. We make it happen with our overnight postpartum doulas.Read More
Did ending your breastfeeding relationship with your baby come with some big, unexpected changes? Did you find yourself uncontrollably sad or mad or anxious? Did you think it couldn’t possibly be postpartum depression since your baby was older? Well, think again.Read More
We’re having a little fun on the blog today with this short, but sweet, poem about postpartum doula support. Take a look and let us know what you think. Perhaps, Kelly missed her calling as the next Shakespeare.Read More
As National Infertility Awareness Week comes to a close, we want you to know that you are not alone. We know that 1 in 8 couples struggle with infertility. It affects us, our friends, our loved ones, and it’s time we started talking about it.Read More
It doesn’t matter if you are a new parent in the throes of daily life with a newborn, an older mom trying to make this whole work-life balance thing happen, or just a tired human on a Friday night looking for a way to unwind: you could definitely use some laughs. Check out our favorite binge-worthy comedies currently streaming on Netflix and laugh until you cry.Read More
Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. And whether you’re here for all that hearts and chocolate and romance stuff or not, we need you to check out today’s blog. Because chances are, you forgot someone pretty important this V-Day.Read More
Love. Love. Love. With Valentine’s just a few days away, love is in the air this week. That’s why this week on the blog we’re talking about all the people who get a little love in your life - friends, partners, even you. And of course, your kids, right. Right?
But what happens when you’re just not feeling the love?
If after nine months of pregnancy and hours and hours of labor you don’t feel an instant bond with that squawking little baby on your chest, is there something wrong with you?
If you want to run away to a desert island (or at least a luxury spa) after walking the floor all night with a fussy, teething 6 month old, does this make you a bad mother?
If you’d rather run to the dentist’s office than get up one more time to refill your toddler’s snack bowl, are you failing at parenthood?
The answer to all of those questions is: NO. No, falling out of love with your kids sometimes does not make you a bad mother.
In fact, it makes you a totally normal mother. It’s totally normal to unconditionally love your kids, to know that you would die for them, but at the same time to not love every part of motherhood. And embracing this truth is the secret to guilt-free parenting.
We all lose our shit some days. Other days we want nothing more than a few, kid-free hours all to ourself. And none of this changes how much we love our kids.
Becoming a parent won’t make you perfect. It won’t make you stop having your own needs and wants and wishes. It won’t give you endless amounts of patience. But it will give you a love like you’ve never experiened before. It’s the kind of love that makes you feel like your heart will explode some days. It’s a love that makes you want nothing more than for your little one to fall asleep and then make you sneak into their room hours later just to gaze at that perfect little face. It’s the kind of love that demands a night away with your partner to refresh, just to do nothing but talk about your baby all night and then rush home to them when you can’t stand to be away a minute more.
That’s the kind of love that we reserve for our kids. It’s not perfect but it is unconditional. And we know you love your kids, even when you don’t want to. That’s what makes us parents.
Birth doulas LOVE birth. It’s common for most people to associate them with only the birth itself. What’s not often discussed is what the birth doula does leading up to the birth and sometimes behind the scenes at the birth itself. Check out this post for more info.Read More